Did you know that taking a time out can actually be a good thing? Today we’ll be discussing how you can empower your child to use a time out as a tool for self-monitoring and self-regulation. To practice a good time out, have your child choose a specific place where he/she can sit comfortably for several minutes. This should be an area that is free from distractions and excessive noise. Your child may choose to have open or closed eyes during the time out period. A good time out is a chance to practice being calm. Before beginning encourage your student to use 5-count breathing or other relaxation techniques during the time as needed. (Your Pathfinders trainer can demonstrate or review these techniques with you, as needed).
The goal is to sit still and quiet for 3 minutes, but you may adjust this time to be shorter or longer based on your child’s specific needs. For instance, you may want to start with a shorter time as you begin practicing this technique, especially with a younger child; on the other hand, older students may benefit from a longer time out period. Remember, we are using the time out as a tool, not a punishment. Even if your child does not make it to the end of the allotted time, interact positively and let him/her know that you’re proud of his/her efforts.
It may take time to build up to a longer “good” time out. Provide some sort of reward for a successful time out. Begin to help your student identify times that a time out may be appropriate. For example, as soon as your child’s emotions begin to escalate, you may ask him/her if taking a time out would be helpful. Over time, the goal would be for the child to learn to ask for a time out independently when he or she needs one.
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